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I have a feeling this is going to be here, at the top, for a while because it is not nearly finished.  I’m often not completely satisfied with a lot of things posted here but, after a few days, I am content enough to let things be and move on.  This one is going to take longer.

If you could see my inbox from, say the moon, you would see why.  I may have read half or two-thirds of them.  It was the only thing I could do at the time.  I have to read them.

Now, after over half a year, it is not a real conversation.  And time provides a different perspective.

It is a huge challenge.  Dialogue is the most fun to write; I have always been fascinated by email and texts as dialogue.  I am not naming names.  It is only about the positives and the learnings.  If I wrote it I can do what I want with it.  Same for if it is on web.  If she said it or wrote it that is a little harder to decide…  Made-up is of course fine too. 

OMG, I didn’t remember.  I went back to an old computer.  There’s a “hide Ms. X” folder.


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Yesterday night and a little bit this morning I was feeling nostalgic.

“Acquiring” phase (not my word).  It is an accomplishment.  It still looks awfully lonely.

I continued my snooping from a year and half ago for just a short while.  Very little has changed.  But I had never heard of Kalama, Washington or Wendy Wilson, nor had I read the details about Ruth McEndoo.  (To get the details the detective had to talk to Mr. X and Ms. X, but he had to do it separately.  And it is unusual that a small local paper would make a request to obtain the documents.  I can see, a bit, where the hiding comes from.)  I was hoping to find good news–that all the problems from before had been resolved and that everything was going really well.  I was told publicity and creating traffic would be a new strategy.  I thought I might even find a new address or person.  That is what I wished-for.

Every week something new hits me.  It is a very rare person who can do that.

I hope she calls in two years when she is her own woman.

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July 31st, 2016 at 4:08 pm

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Doug Hopkins.

If you look closely you can see the back of my head.

God I’ve been asleep so long I’ve been awaaay…  (link).  The original:


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July 30th, 2016 at 8:29 pm

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Hi and thank you for writing. I appreciate women who go for it and try to respond if there is a way.

I was just thinking today–because I AM in the mood and want to try speed dating!–that there are some personality tests here. I like another site, another dating site which has a great matching system. I’ll tell you, I recently “completed” a fairly long distance encounter there with someone just like me and I’ll never forget it. So I can attest that it is possible to do some real target marketing.

Perhaps what you are saying in part is I am smart, articulate, and have a general understanding of how the world works, including law and politics. I’m not bragging whatsoever but–I do respond to women’s profiles and sincere efforts. Occasionally I will write something that will get some real attention. Two of the three Jefferson County commissioners I would call close contacts and the third knows me too; one is a Democrat and one is a Republican.

Someday I will post it in my profile–people who know me know it–that usually when I say something there is something more behind it. I’m unusually sensitive and introspective (for a man). When I write something I have usually done my research and chosen my words carefully–there is always something more behind it.

So, with all due and appropriate respect, I disagree. Politics is something that is unimportant. There are plenty of legal, available, energetic, online, and other ways to do what one wants to and I respect all of it.

Oh, there is a question on OKC about it and my response is… Tolerant in terms of quantitative voting; written response of “More and more I’m thinking I don’t understand political ideology. It varies with the issues.”

To answer your question, I used to call myself a Gerald Ford (left-wing) Republican. (I knew Ford and his cronies from Michigan and specifically my fraternity there.) Now I would say I am more tolerant of the Democratic party too.

Finally, I do this too… remark on women’s profiles. Always, they’re appreciative because they have no idea how they may be viewed by the opposite sex. Yours is one of the worst I have seen. It is all “I want.” And you come off as extremely intolerant, something that… Most people go the other way as they get older. I lived in LA too (Santa Monica and Westwood) and love it too. I especially liked/learned that… liberal/trends go East for sure, but pretty darn conservative parts too. I think it is cool that everyone seems to recognize and accept that.


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July 30th, 2016 at 12:51 pm

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Ouch.  But since we don’t believe in denial around here, it is now public.  Motivation for the single guy.

This is day 3 of 30.  It is now day 7 of 30 and things have improved already.


Beast!  Beasts.




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July 26th, 2016 at 10:01 am

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Update on the golf hole

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“Gophers, not golfers, you idiot.  I want you to kill all the gophers!”

Around here they are voles.  They are a combination of every rural rodent.  They look like a platypus, only smaller.

You never want to denigrate your product, but Tree Protectors work for this as well…

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July 8th, 2016 at 7:55 am

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July 7th, 2016 at 7:51 pm

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Online dating update

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One of the things you cannot do in this life is impose conditions on love. Another impossibility is to expect another’s heart to accommodate your own desires and needs. You may think that cleverness, power or money will work on your behalf, but eventually you will end up feeling the way you really feel, and so will the other person, and there is no argument more useless than the one that begins with the words “But I thought we had an agreement.”

Shop Girl.

It is very hard to watch a second time.  Steve Martin is a talented guy.

That is what happened to me, or at least that was something going on at the same time, a long time ago.  One of us was unfaithful.  There was an arrangement proposed, and that agreement became convoluted, abused, and eventually turned completely around.  And that is exactly how it ended.


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July 3rd, 2016 at 6:03 pm

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State of the art

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1.  Sign this (click here) and refund is happening.  Here’s the label.

2.  Wait 5 days, here’s label, refund upon tracking delivery.

Part of the learning here is that to play in ecommerce you have to be prepared to box and ship.  That is the currency:  boxes.  No problem there–try spending years figuring-out how to ship an 8-foot tree protection device.  Still, there are better ways, or at least ways to make it so easy you cannot refuse.

The examples above are Walmart and eBay, respectively.


Maybe it is a symptom of cutting the cable.  Recently I have been buying a lot of computers.  There is more content out there than I was getting with cable anyway and the bonus is I don’t have to deal with Comcast or coax cables.  Anyway, there are excellent computers out there like this and there is only a month left to upgrade to Windows 10.

It is fun and I stay just a bit in touch with best practices.

Blinq.  eBay.  Amex.  Google Trusted Stores.  Blinq.  Compaq.  eBay.  Walmart.  Comcast.


I have always liked this little Lenovo (IBM made by Lenovo).  It sounds better.

One of the frequent storms hit and blew the cable box, which destroyed the new TV, setting off an inability to replace the box, and the cutting the cable revelation.  The computer didn’t show up, another one is perfection (but bigger), and two others failed.  Then the TV came back, meaning move the other to another room, and it didn’t have the connections or a model number and Walmart said here’s your refund (after four months).

It started with all the boxes.  I think ecommerce has reached the stage where people just hit the send button.  When in doubt, send.  What is a person’s responsibility when it comes to sending back unwanted stuff?

When the cable box blew Comcast sent me a massive relic replacement without HDMI.  “It is working, ” the person in India said and it was not.  “It has HDMI,” she said.  No, it has a plate in front of the HDMI port.  We’ll send another one, and it is the exact same thing.

There is no need to do this with cable when there are other ways to connect.

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July 2nd, 2016 at 12:59 pm

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